Former ‘Bachelorette’ Gabby Windey Gets Candid About Exploring Her Sexuality at 32
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The Bachelorette star Gabby Windey has spent years looking for a man to love, but later figured out she’s destined to be with a girl. Now, at 32, she’s decided to live her truth — unapologetically. Weeks after coming out publicly, Windey reflects on what it means to fall in love with the same sex and why she thinks she’ll never date a man ever again.
Gabby Windey Says She Wondered if She Was Gay in Childhood
When Windey was young, she recalls feeling “really emotionally connected” to her girl friends. As per the DWTS alum, signs had been appearing in front of her since childhood, but it was safer for her suppress her emotions then.
“Sometimes before I went to bed at night, out of nowhere, when I was fully straight, or whatever, I would think, What if I was gay? and then I’d be like, oh, my God, that’s just a crazy thought that I’m having; it’s Freudian,” she told Glamour. “But it became louder and louder. It was almost like I was afraid for it to happen for some reason.”
Yet, earlier this year, Windey has decided to look at all of the hints for what they were. Upon moving back to Los Angeles after the DWTS Tour, she looked for women through a dating app, and began exploring a world she’s unfamiliar with. Failing to feel sparks with the first girl she dated, she decided to explore more. A few weeks later, Windey met writer-comedian Robby Hoffman.
“Our mutual friend brought her over, and she introduced herself to us. She’s hilarious and has such a presence. She knows how to work people. She was like, ‘So what’s going on here? The Bachelorette’s gay?'” she said.
Hoffman’s straightforward and funny demeanor proved to be interesting to Windey. And there, they began to develop a close relationship that would later turn into romance.
She Doesn’t Think She’ll Date a Man Ever Again
Windey then came to a conclusion that dating women is “just so much more comfortable.” While she’s still not used to this new world, she’s thankful for Hoffman for being “the most giving and egoless person.”
“She knew she was more experienced so I guess she was pursuing me more,” she said.
Windey and Hoffman are now four months into their relationship, and The Bachelorette star is learning more and more. While she couldn’t care less about labels, she feels the need to identify herself for “perspective and context.”
“I guess ‘bisexual’ would be the most honest label for me, but I don’t know. I just know after dating women, I don’t think I would ever date a man again,” she said.
Now, Windey says she’s just what she is, enjoying the best relationship she’s ever been. She went on sent a message to her followers: “If you want to be happy for me in a relationship, be happy for me now.”
